What are boundaries?
“Boundaries are ways to communicate our needs to others via words and actions. They are also perimeters that we establish with ourselves and others. Therefore, boundaries…are also about holding yourself accountable for creating your life. “Nedra Glover Tawwab
Think/journal about your wine definition/s of boundaries.
Rigid boundaries | Healthy boundaries | Porous boundaries |
Self-protective | Clear about your needs | People-pleasing |
No exceptions | Boundaries might change over time | Co-dependency |
Rigid rules | You respect other people’s boundaries | Enmeshment |
“No help needed” |
| Weak/absent/poorly expressed |
Fear of vulnerability |
| Harmful to you (and others) |
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Which type of boundaries are you setting?
Are there situations in which you have rigid boundaries or porous boundaries?
Bibliography and further readings
Tawwab, N.G., 2021. Set boundaries, find peace: A guide to reclaiming yourself. Penguin.
How to Deal With a Difficult Co-worker. Marie Holowaychuk
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